4 Coping Strategies When Thinking About Suicide

Mental Health Awareness Week

You may or may not know but this week is mental health awareness week.  Sadly the number of suicide is increasing and is now at 17 a day in the United Kingdom.   So today I am sharing with you a blog post on 4 coping strategies when thinking about suicide by Dr M Welby a Harvard psychiatrist.  I hope you find it helpful.

Preventing suicide takes forethought and planning, not only in the world as a whole to create better support systems and treatment but for individuals struggling with how to deal with suicidal thoughts.  Creating a plan for how to prevent suicide and manage emotions at the height of intense feelings is a lot to ask of anyone.  But coming up with a plan ahead of time for how to manage distress and suicidal urges can help allow the feelings to pass.  This post includes coping strategies to manage distress, problem-solving techniques to help cut down on crisis, and suggestions on how to create coping cards and a hope box to use when thinking about suicide.

1. Prevent Suicide By Learning Distress Tolerances

Suicidal impulses are often brief, intense urges lasting minutes to hours. Trying to come up with how to manage these waves of intense suicidal feelings the moment they are occurring is a challenge. Having a go-to list of coping strategies is a helpful tool in getting through a wave of suicidal urges unharmed.

Even for people that are chronically suicidal, there are often moments of increased intensity for suicidal feelings. Using these distress tolerance skills can help reduce risk.

Exercise

10 Coping Strategies To Manage Distress

Each individual may find different things soothing but I encourage you to come up with a variety of options so there are more to choose from at the moment you need them:

  • Deep breathing: Use an app like Breathe2Relax or other mindfulness apps that can walk a person through a breathing relaxation exercise. Find one you like and have it ready on your phone.
  • Phone apps such as Stress Free Now, Calm or Headspace.
  • Aromatherapy: Pick an aromatherapy scent you like and carry it with you. Taking a moment to focus on an enjoyable scent can be grounding.
  • Exercise: I particularly like high-intensity bursts of exercise that can match the intensity of the emotion. Exhaust yourself by doing rapid jumping jacks, pushups, running quicker than is comfortable, burpees, a punching bag…there are many options available. If this level of exercise is not possible, find other exercises that are doable such as going for a walk.
  • Take a warm bath
  • Music: Crank it up or play it softly. Music can be a great distraction.
  • Pet: There is nothing more grounding than spending some time petting or playing with your animal. Animals are always in the moment and can help us get back to the here-and-now by following their lead.
  • Nature: Being out in nature is calming and grounding. It sometimes helps us to see the world is bigger than this moment.
  • Do a word game or puzzle
  • Any other distraction you can think of!

2. Using Coping Cards When Thinking About Suicide

During a wave of intense distress and suicidal feelings, thoughts become distorted and people are often unable to come up with solutions at that moment.

The pattern of thinking during a crisis is often pretty consistent. Many people have predictable thoughts that happen when they feel distressed:

  • “I’ll never get better”,
  • “I’ll always feel this way”,
  • “My life will never change”,
  • “I’ve made no improvement”

    It can be helpful to list these thoughts on a notecard and write out a matching response on the other side:
  • “I’ve made it through times when I felt hopeless before”,
  • “I do not always feel this way”
  • “The last many times I felt this bad I was happy I didn’t harm myself the next day because I felt better”

Carry these cards with you (or take a picture on your phone to access them) for the moments you may start to struggle and forget that distress and suicidal urges will pass.

3.  Preventing Suicide With A Hope Box

A hope box is just like what it sounds: a box full of reminders of hope and reasons why you are choosing to live. Life-saving information is stored in this box so when a person is in crisis and can’t recall their coping skills or reasons for living, they can access this box and see the information in one place.

I first heard about hope boxes while researching mental health apps and discovered Virtual Hope Box. This is a free app that adapts the physical hope box (which obviously would be challenging to carry around) into a virtual space so it is always there, ready to access on your phone. It includes options like: Distract me, Inspire me, Relax me, and Coping tools.

Things To Include In The Hope Box

  • Coping cards that you made with alternative thoughts to counteract the challenging ones that usually come up in a crisis,
  • Emergency numbers: both numbers for crises lines but also numbers for your support system (family, friends, therapists…whoever you need to call for help)
  • Reminders of coping strategies to use and distress tolerance skills (see the list above for ideas of coping strategies)
  • Lists of reasons to live
  • Pictures of loved ones: family, friends, and pets,
  • Letters from loved ones,
  • Sentimental objects or gifts
  • Reminders of past successes
  • A pleasurable aromatherapy scent to distract you
  • A treat you would enjoy like a piece of gum or a hard candy

Create both a virtual and a physical box. Going through the physical box can be grounding in itself- physically touching the items and sorting through the box can serve as a distraction while waiting for the distress to pass.

Problem-Solving Skills

Suicide is an attempt to solve a problem. Be it a harmful attempt, it is an attempt nonetheless. Although this may sound overly simplistic, improving problem-solving skills can help people see other options besides suicide.

The goal of these problem-solving techniques is not necessarily so that a person can solve everything in the heat of the moment. The hope is that improving problem-solving capabilities will cut down on moments of crisis by being proactively better able to think through challenges. Problem-solving techniques are one part of the formula to manage distress and suicidal ideation.

A Lesson From The Business World

Problem-solving skills are commonly used in business to successfully resolve obstacles and are also needed in general life. Recommendations in business management rely upon breaking down the problem in order to better understand it and come up with a solution. These steps help take some of the emotions that can cloud thinking out of it.

5 Problem Solving Steps To Go Through

  • Define the problem.
  • Determine the causes.
  • Generate ideas.
  • Select the best solution.
  • Take action.

 Personally I think the problem-solving steps to go through are done best with a counsellor or therapist or a good friend.

I hope that you find this article helpful. But please remember you are not on your own and there are people out there who can help you. All you need to do is reach out…

Contact the Samaritans

Contact Mind

If you are local to Harrogate, North Yorkshire there is a free online support group on Facebook called Harrogate Black Dog.

Love and Light

Tracey x